As some of you are aware, I have some insecurities when it comes to women. Well a couple months ago my girlfriend left her facebook logged on my computer. My fear got the better of me and I went through her private messages to find her talking dirty with one of her co-workers. I confronted her and she cried and apologized so much that I gave her a second chance. I told her she had to be open with me and withhold her privacy until I was comfortable again. She stayed the night at my house last night, and this morning my fear got a hold of me again. I went through her phone and at 2 am she was talking dirty to her co-worker again. I fell asleep around 1, so this happened shortly after I fell asleep. I ended our relationship this morning. I gave her a second chance, and she blew it. Yes I should have respected her privacy, but I also shouldn't have found anything like this. We were supposed to go apartment hunting today, so we could move in together. I'm completely crushed right now.
Damn, sorry dude. But yeah, pretty predictable. You should have punted her ass the first time. In my experience that dirty talk generally goes places. I'd be very surprised if the chatting was all that went on.
Yeah, I was going to end it the first time but the pure emotion that poured out of her when she came over kept me from ending it. It hurts much worse today than it did the first time I found it though. Almost as if I was expecting it.
Some folks just cheat, it's in their nature to do it, and no matter how well intended they seem they always go back to it. But anyway, it hurts now but thank you lucky stars you didn't marry her or have any children.
Sorry man, it sucks to hear that. I think generally when a girl goes out and does something like this there are some signs indicating the loss of interest or lack of excitement that leads down this type of path. It's human nature (especially in females) to seek excitement and thrills, and unfortunately that's not what a consistent / predictable long term relationship always offers. Regardless of whether what she was doing was going to be a temporary / occasional thing, it's for the best that you got out... especially considering you were looking at places together! That would've been ultra depressing and a lot more hassle down the road. Keep your head up, flirt with some girls and try to see this opportunity as you can explore the world and meet someone new that's interesting and exciting and won't fuck you over. Cue GG or someone else to show this man some tits!!
Sorry to hear this, but I think everyone will agree, it's good that this happened now and not after you guys committed to moving into a place together.
Yeah, I know I'll be ok. I will be seeking some counseling though, thankfully as a Walmart employee I'm able to speak with a professional counselor for free 24/7/365.
deets on exactly what they were saying? let it be known, that not only have you breached her privacy, but the rest of us as well by bringing us into this. you might wanna move this to NSFW just in case. just thank curiosity for saving your ass, and thanks to the fact she took it easily and hasnt threatened legal action, etc etc like a dumbass sue-happy would. nows the time to get your testosterone back up. right now youre a pathetic sad kunt pouring estrogen from your fallopian tubes. you dont need a counselor, wtf mate. buy youself a nice steak dinner, hit the gym, lift some weights, go running, get off that goddamn facebook, make some money, and focus on yourself. you'll thank me later. oh, and if a female has alot of male friends, count on it, that theres flirting going on. it may not be in the direction of actual meeting up to fuck or cheat, but people do goof off and talk shit to each other jokingly. its a hard thing to understand, but it comes with the territory of dating a female. temptation is everywhere and you'll never be there all the time to block it. good luck my mann.
.... she can't bring legal action on him for saying she's a cheater or looking at her phone/facebook.
actually she can bring legal issues into this. it may not go far but its possible. facebook states that users may not "access an account belonging to someone else." "Safety 3.5 You will not solicit login information or access an account belonging to someone else" http://www.facebook.com/legal/terms privacy is privacy. if i catch coleman going through my self recorded prostate tickling videos, i will fuckin ruin you phaggot
My guess is that a dumb broad not smart enough to cover her tracks any better than that isn't going to be smart enough to cause him any trouble.
Facebook doesn't make laws.. and if she was already logged in and he didn't steal her password or anything then she has even less recourse.
If she decided legal action was the right thing to do, then she would have to openly admit that what I saw was real. She'd smear her own name. Nobody that either of us work with has any clue what's going on, and I plan to keep it that way. I won't even tell my family what happened. My best friend and you guys are the only ones that have any details, and yours are slim to none.
She's not denying it, but it's not exactly flaunted to all of her family and friends right now. If she were to try legal action, she would have to openly confess about it. And Torx, you're not getting details.
dude just had his heart broken and you want him to recount the details of how his girlfriend cheated on him so you can get a hardon?
^^^ Yepper. I'd hold off on the counseling. You're just hurt; it stings worse than anything, but you'll heal.
I'm sorry but the fact that you think that "Safety 3.5" would hold up in a court is amusing. There's no statute number on that page, it says all over the damn thing "we do not guarantee" "not responsible..." Even if there was a privacy law, she would have to prove that he "accessed" her page and he could just say she left it on the screen, it's her word against his.
tweakers getting their jimmies rustled trying to justify and find loopholes to illegally access someones facebook acct and cellphone lol.
Wtf Torx... no counseling? If he beleives that it will help him, let it be. It's free, plus he can also do everything you suggested: steak, gym, whatever..
