You guys ever feel like there is something "more" ?

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  1. Chainblade

    Chainblade Junior Member

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    The past couple of years, I've really done some soul searching. I've had so much crap happen in my life (like lots of people) but I'm still "successful" to some extent.

    I'm at the point in my life where I'm out of debt (except for my small house) and a lot of my paycheck is extra money. Which is a first for me. I've struggled for so long just to get by and now I have extra money. When I struggled, I always thought happiness was having money to buy things. Now that I have it, I doesn't really have the same fulfillment that it once did to buy something. Don't get me wrong, I enjoy buying things but it's not the same. I still feel empty or like I'm missing something.

    For a long time, I've enjoyed helping people. But I never knew how to go about that. For the most part, I've just done my normal routine of getting up every day and going to work and then repeat the next day. Time flies. I'm 25 and just feel like there is more. I feel like i'm just wasting my time doing nothing important.

    Long post but I just kinda wanted to get you guys' opinion and see if any of you feel this way sometimes and/or what you would suggest. I don't want to do the same 'ole "9-5" every day (even though i'm 6-3 :p). I thought about just to start volunteering doing small things. but ultimately, I think i want to do something full time.

    Reason I bring it up today is that I was taking a walk during my lunch in Seattle and there was an irish guy canvasing on the street for Children International. He had quite the story where he quit his "real" job to work for them and sponsor children. He doesn't make much money but he genuinely seems happy...a happiness that I have yet to find. While I'm not sure that's the exact path I'd want to take, I sometimes think it might take something extreme like that to really make a difference in my life.

    so anyways, thoughts, opinions, complaints?
  2. braaains

    braaains gubble gubble

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    A happy canvasser? I call shenanigans. I canvassed for two days, and it was one of the more demeaning experiences :p

    Anyways, do not canvass. The average canvasser lifespan is a week. Its an absurd job. There's a decent chance he was lying to you just to get you to sign seeing as his job depends on whether or not he actually makes any money. I don't mean to shit on the thread, but my experience with canvassing was basically the guiltless survive the longest there.
  3. Chainblade

    Chainblade Junior Member

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    well i didnt' say i wanted to canvas lol. he talked about how he is treated and I couldn't do it (at least not in this point in my life). but that's not all that he did. He just happened to be doing it at the time. rather he was lying or not is another story. but i'm sure there are some legit people that are so passionate about their cause that they are genuinely happy that they are helping people and take the bad with the good. again, i'm not saying i want to canvas, hell no. but the general theme is just doing something helpful to the world instead of just sitting at computers day after day after day after day.
  4. Bear

    Bear Hoot!

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    This is just life's way of fucking with you. See, it's been kicking you in the nuts for a while. Now that things have calmed down, you feel like there's more for you out there.

    Give it a few months/weeks/days and life's swift kick will obliterate your nuts once again.

    The Irish guy just sounds like an unemployed software engineer from Initech.
  5. Coleman

    Coleman fresh off the corner

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    Not sure what you're looking for in an answer but I can tell you that money opens the door to help people but won't lend a hand without your own will. Take your extra income and invest it in small businesses or put it on a website like Kiva - Loans that change lives .

    Don't think about it, be about it.
  6. Chainblade

    Chainblade Junior Member

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    you guys honestly think there are no people that would honesty choose to help people for very little pay than make more money at some mundane job that doesn't matter? come on now. lots of people care about making a difference. i'm sorry but i dont' see how i'm going to suddenly think my job is fullfilling a couple of months down the line. my career has steadily gotten better and better since college and i thought a long time ago I'd be happy but it's the opposite.
  7. gB dAvId x

    gB dAvId x thats what she said

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    1st you need to spell check and reread your posts. 2nd yes there is more to life then a 9-5 job, but for me whats important is finding that job and in the meantime keeping the job that I have. Set yourself goals. There are many goals I have for myself. It sounds like you are going through a quarter life crisis lol. You should do more for yourself. Go back to school, get a Ba/BS. Take classes on the side, meet new people. I have a whole list in my head of things I want to do by the time I turn 30 and within the next couple of years. I dunno, it seems like you've improved alot, just improve some more and you can always do stuff on the side to help other people. Get involved with a community or something.
  8. Chainblade

    Chainblade Junior Member

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    i know i can donate my money or invest in something but i want to be physically out there doing something. there isn't much of a gratification to still continue to work a boring job and give my money away.

    i don't know. i'm basically just thinking my thoughts out loud here on tweak and not sure if I'm explaining it properly or if any of you even care lol.
  9. Chainblade

    Chainblade Junior Member

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    this is the internet, i don't have time for that :D, plus i'm at work and doing other things so I'm multitasking here.

    i wouldn't necessarily say i'm going through some quarter life crisis but i guess that's as close to describing it as possible. i've been thinking like this for several years though. I just think there is more to life than what I do, that's all.
  10. MSP

    MSP Haunting a dead forum...

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    ^ Truth. You're experiencing calm, perhaps for the first time, and it's strange and a little frightening probably. Bank the money and make at least a 5 year plan.
  11. namelessentity

    namelessentity Resident Cynic

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    Life is like an MMORPG. Unless there is something that you're working to improve, you're mostly just bored an unhappy.

    My problem is that I truly view life as something like an MMORPG, and I feel like once I'm done it will all have just been a waste of time.

    But hey, maybe I just had a shitty day?
  12. Bear

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    I didn't mean to crap on your feelings or anything. I get similar feelings where I'm like, "Man, I'm not doing enough with my time." It's because I'm always busy that whenever I have a spare moment, I feel like I'm being lazy.

    A big part of that was due to my old job at Alienware where I just sat on my ass all day at home. Even when I tried to take advantage of all the free time, it just ruined me productivity-wise. With my new job, I'm busy from 5:20am when I wake up to 11pm when I go to sleep, Monday through Friday. The weekends are a great time to relax with the gf...Even on the weekends, I get bored and start feeling unproductive.

    It's a normal feeling, don't feed into it too much or you may be unhappy for jumping head first in something that was just a temporary feeling.
  13. braaains

    braaains gubble gubble

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    I think life is mainly about looking out for yourself and others secondary. I can't do much in my current situation (struggling financially worse than I ever imagined), but I do what I can. I obviously can't help anyone financially, but I mean I signed up to be put in the bone marrow registry (National Marrow Donor Program - Be The Match Marrow Registry), I talk to people down on thier luck and treat them with dignity and thats the most I can do right now. I love the idea of living a simple life helping others and flying out to nepal to help build up a villages infrastructure, but thats totally unrealistic right now.

    Realistically I have rent to pay, I have no health insurance, it's just not feasible. If you are in a place to help others right now, I say do what you can within your means. You could break your arm tomorrow and be out of work and just another unfortunate soul tomorrow.


    I don't really know what you are looking for here in this thread. There is only so much you can do. There are so few jobs where you actually spend your time helping others. Most of the money even made by these canvassing groups goes straight to payroll (canvassers make pretty good pay really).
    If you are serious about helping others, I recommend going through a an organization that puts you straight at the source of helping others. Something where you actually go yourself and make a difference. These third party programs are such a cop out.
  14. ThatHideousStrength

    ThatHideousStrength Junior Member

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    Well at least you have that problem. It sucks that I'm 24 still living at home. I finally got a 'job' but it's a 14 dollars an hour internship.
  15. Goofus Maximus

    Goofus Maximus Too old to be this dumb!

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    Start saving that extra money. There is ALWAYS some hideously unexpected event that will drain money just around the corner. I speak from unhappy experience. (Currently dealing with a burst water pipe, with the type of pipe so old that it is no longer made in that size, so I'll have to call a REAL plumber, which I can't afford)

    For donating to charities, rather than listening to a panhandler/canvasser, do your research on reputable agencies that do things you approve of (I doubt a Right-To-Life-er would want to give to Planned Parenthood, for instance), and donate to them (and remember to take it off on your taxes).
  16. Coleman

    Coleman fresh off the corner

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    Do they cap your hours really low or something? A paid internship, let alone one that is $14/hr, is quite a nice thing to have.
  17. ThatHideousStrength

    ThatHideousStrength Junior Member

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    No, it's 40 hours a week. I guess what I'm trying to say is, being 24 living at home, and just getting another internship feels like fail lol.
  18. braaains

    braaains gubble gubble

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    That internship sounds like a job... What are the odds of you becoming staff?
  19. ThatHideousStrength

    ThatHideousStrength Junior Member

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    I hope it's a good chance.
  20. smirnoff

    smirnoff Curmudgeon

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    Concur.

    Take care of yourself first CB. Give it some time, keep your eyes open, and I think you'll find that the opportunity to 'help' will present itself, rather than you having to go find it. In this way you'll be more likely to come across your true calling (cheesy as that sounds).

    Also, keep the ball rolling. You've done so well to get where you are, but remember, just because life is giving you a chance to rest doesn't mean it's a good time to take a break. I know this from experience. In the past, at work, I would bust my butt and this would lead to success, but once I achieved success I would quit doing all the things that got me there. I would stagnate, and eventually be back at square one. Repeat. So keep up the good work. I mean it. :)
  21. Chainblade

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    oh i know, it's not like this would be something i'd do immediately. i already have a plan to pad the savings account for the future.

    it's not even that i'm bored. i mean i'm bored with my job but i'm busy from 5am until 10pm. i don't have a chance to rest really. so it's not that. it's just having the unsatisfied feeling of my career/life. to be fair, i've had these feelings even when i was dirt poor and in debt so it isn't related to suddenly being financially more stable.

    i appreciate the input though. like i said, i really don't have a firm idea or anything. i just thought I'd throw it out here to see what you guys thought.
  22. ivanolo

    ivanolo Guest

    I didn't read some of the replies, so forgive me if I'm suggesting something that has already been said, but I think you should make a little trip. Go to a place you've always wanted to go. Get out of your routine.

    As for life, I don't know if there's something more to it. I don't believe in that kind of shit. If you really wanna help people, volunteer somewhere.
  23. Torx

    Torx Indigenous Nudist

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    [insert whiska's wise words here]
  24. Chainblade

    Chainblade Junior Member

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    god I wish. I've been wanting to travel forever. like go on a looong trip. i havent been on a vacation in my adult life and haven't gone anywhere outside of my general area since I was like 11 (cruise with the family). someday. it's just tough because i have to get time off from work and enough of it. I only have a week vacation the first year. And i haven't seen my grandparents in many years. They are getting up their in years and I want to see them before they pass on. Tough to do that and a real vacation with only one week to work with. In due time though.

    That's part of why I was asking about helping people full time. If it paid enough for me to get by and I got to travel the world, that would be ideal. I just don't know how to go about that. Again, this would be in the future because I want to get a good savings going but I like to start thinking early :)
  25. ThatHideousStrength

    ThatHideousStrength Junior Member

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    You could teach kids English in Asian countries.