Discussion in 'Off-Topic' started by hans5849, Feb 1, 2008.
My advise is don't go.
At the very least tell her you were planning on flying out and see what she says. And try to call from your phone. If she doesn't answer you have your answer.
Well, Hans, you have to do what you must. I hope, whatever it is you choose, that it works out for both of you. Anyone alive, would be fortunate to have you as a friend.
I gotta agree with MSP. Call her, if she doesn't answer leave her a voicemail or an email or a txt'd or something. tell her you want to see her and have a plane ticket to come down this weekend.
If she doesn't get back to you.... don't go.
I wouldn't even leave a message or tell her about the ticket. If she doesn't answer just let it go. It sucks dude, I know you really had feelings for her.
I dated a girl once who told me she had been a member of a cult that sacrificed babies. Women play these fucking games... :shock:
I talked to one of our mutual friends and she even said that this girl has been acting funny recently. I'm going to call her at 5pm tonight and if there is no answer I cancel my ticket and use the cost to get my ticket home in March.
I'm not going, maybe I'll call her in a few weeks.
Wise decision. But I'm really sorry. It's tough to care for someone who doesn't reciprocate, or is otherwise unavailable.
Don't take it personally though hans. I'm sure it's not just you whose feeling the distance, like you say her friends say she's been different. Just a side effect of her reconstructing her life I'd guess....
Letting go, doesn't mean to stop caring. It does afford everyone time to sort it all out and, sooner or later, move on to whatever is next.
I was working on my computer today (getting my computer to work with my 1TB drive was a bitch) and I remembered something. This is from August when me and her had a huge fight and didn't talk for two months afterwards.
"What can I tell you that will make you understand what I think of you and the way you treat people but you know what the world will have its way with you and maybe after that you will not be so shitty."
Am I clairvoyant? Hopefully she takes this is a opportunity to change for the better and not fill with hate and resentment.
absence makes the heart grow fonder. The best thing you could do right now is not call her. She's expecting you to call so when you don't, it will have a much more profound effect than anything else you could do. Let her go and she will come back if it was meant to be.
So I'm in San Diego right now. I saw her today, it was nice.
So as part of the process she was given all these tests, one of them was a pap smear. It came back abnormal. It turns out that she has cervical cancer and is now getting radiation treatment for it. I'm taking her to her treatment tomorrow.
It's hard for me not to be me, I would smother her if I did.
Im so sorry to hear about her cancer. Take care of her and yourself. Will keep you both in my prayers.