Be forewarned, this is my emo problems with my girlfriend. If you don't care, or don't want to read a lot, don't bother. I can not cliffnotes this. I don't know how much stock I'll hold in your opinions. Because, well, if I relied heavily on people's opinions to form my decisions, what kind of person would that make me? It goes down like this: I've been going out with a girl named Megan for the past 19 months. She is my second girlfriend, my first love. I'm usually very happy with her, and everything she does for me. Always... doing certain favors, leaving me little notes, making me presents/cookies etc. 90% or more of the time, the relationship is perfect. I couldn't ask for anything more. This is where the hard part comes in. She's... rather friendly. She used to constantly hug her male (majority of them are guys) friends. I eventually told her to stop this because I'm too insecure to deal with it. I told her this because of my insecurity, and because one of her friends would get the wrong idea. That exact thing happened, last year. Her friend by the name of Jeremy fell in "love" with her. He would constantly tell her it, and basically wouldn't leave her alone about it. She was still friends with him after the fact, and didn't tell him that she didn't like him as more than a friend until I threatened to break up with her. She later on told me that she did have feelings for him at a certain time. And then, my insecurity got the better of me. Even after she told him this, I demanded that she stop speaking with him. I told her to make a choice, his "friendship", or my love. She made a choice, me. Or, so I thought. This was last year. It's about halfway into this year. I had known something was wrong for a few months, but didn't really inquire about it. I'm a pussy like that, and I was afraid. I learned tonight that she has become friends with him again, has received "small" hugs from him (she described it as a one armed pat), and he still confesses and reminds her of his "love"/obsession with her, daily. I completely broke down when I heard this. I couldn't breathe. I blew up on her, climaxing with the phrase "he can fucking have you." I took it back after she was sobbing hard for about 20 seconds. I'm a worm. Anyways, my ultimatum was this: The same choice I gave you last year. Make your fucking choice, and let me know on Friday. I was going to add if she broke it again I was going to end it with her, but that would probably have been an empty threat. I honestly can't imagine my life without her. I've thought about breaking up with her before, but she's really all I have. I have her, a few close friends (like 3ish). I don't know if I could get anything better, and I'm just being picky at this point. I mean, it's not like she sucked him off or anything. That's enough rambling. *sighs* So. Opinions. If you're going to say "IDB" or something of that nature, please don't fucking bother. Like I said before, I probably won't rely much on your opinions, but perhaps one of you will shed some insight. Point out something I'm not realizing.