Aw shit..

Discussion in 'Off-Topic' started by succubus, Apr 17, 2011.

  1. succubus

    succubus Comfortably Numb

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    My 17 yr old son just called me - he's freaking out. He thinks he got his gf pregnant. She's 15 - too young to have an abortion without parental consent. If my son's dad and his gf's parents find out they're all going to flip the fuck out. Should I pretend to be this girls mom and take her?
  2. Phant0m51

    Phant0m51 From Utah, NOT mormon

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    Fuck no you shouldn't!!! Pretty sure that's a felony, don't freaking do it!
  3. Octane91

    Octane91 <smartass comment> Staff Member

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    Meh...what's the worst that could happen if you did it? Just convince them you're the "legal guardian".

    Or you could:

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    OR

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  4. tweakmonkey

    tweakmonkey Webmaster Staff Member

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  5. gB dAvId x

    gB dAvId x thats what she said

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    Push her down the stairs
  6. Goofus Maximus

    Goofus Maximus Too old to be this dumb!

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    I'm equally sure that a 17 year old having sex with a 15 year old is itself a felony. In some States at least.

    It's time to just face the consequences and get that girl to an OB/Gyn. Outcomes (including NOT DYING) are far better for girls that age, if they get prenatal care early. Also, she may be NOT pregnant, so it would be a relief to find that out early. I don't envy you dealing with the girl's family. Especially if your son and his girlfriend live in one of the States where he's committed a felony act of sexual abuse, such as Alabama.

    Oh, and you may want to take Octane's bat, and use it to beat some responsibility and/or brains into that young hormone-driven idiot's head. He should have been freaking out over the consequences as he was hiding that sausage! At 17, he should have been mature enough to think about these things beforehand... Feel free to ignore this part, since you'll be under enough stress without dealing with other folk's opinions. :)
  7. mistawiskas

    mistawiskas kik n a and takin names

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    The kid just changed his whole life. I was 16 and my GF was 14 when my squiggly-wigglies found a target. My whole being changed with a phone call from her. While other kids were finishing high school and going on to college, I was working to raise a family. Her parents helped us get started (god rest their soles, they were really good, decent people) on the condition that we got married. Salt Lake City/Utah was the only one of two states that had a minimum age of 16/14 with parental consent. The other being way back on the east coast.

    flashback:
    It was 1974 and I was trying to learn how to deal with a babby, working everyday, a wife and all the grownup things that shouldn't have been in my life for another 10 years. I managed to raise my son and had another kid, a daughter, and by the time I was 24, it was time to run them all off for their protection because of drugs and alcohol. I couldn't drag them through what i knew was coming down the pike.

    There is a legal way to proceed. Everyone has to know what's taking place. If the shit's going to hit the fan, let it. There's only one way to go to the next step and that's with everyone involved. I'm sure your son is scared, and his GF is scared. They could sure use some understanding right now. Neither are above the age of consent so that legal hurdle is not an issue. Be prepared for the blame game, the "if onlys", the "why didn't you's" and all the crap. remember, it's no reflection on you. How you proceed is.

    Has your son and his girl decided where they want this to go? For me there was no question about what I had to do. But that was then (37 years ago), this is now. there weren't as many options in 1974 as there are today and the morals of the time have changed. I'd like to say that everything worked out peachy for me in the end. but to say anything along those lines would just be blowing smoke up yer ass. My life would have been exponentially better and simpler had I kept mr. wiggly in my pants.

    feel free to use me as a bad example/worse case scenario :wink:
  8. nidex

    nidex Hood Rich

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    You are a down ass mom. Although your idea is really illegal, I gotta honor the lengths you're willing to go for your kid. Want to be my mom? Pleeeeease?
  9. GOG427

    GOG427 Hello, Sunshine... It's you.

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    I know right, my parents would had me married by the next day!
  10. HEAVY-D

    HEAVY-D Eh?!

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    I can not give advice on this subject young weedhopper.
    The anti-abortion wackjobs will luv this thread.
  11. Scrubbin_Bubbles

    Scrubbin_Bubbles My E-Penis Is HUGE

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    I'm positive there is easy herbal ways to induce a miscarriage.
  12. Lord Kain

    Lord Kain Keeper of the Timeline Staff Member

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    lol Scrubs, I was gonna post that.

    Achillée Millefeuille. I don't know the english name, but it should be easy to find. Very strong abortive properties.
  13. Miller

    Miller Tweak Guru

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    The only Advice I can give you is don't put yourself in possible huge legal troubles, look like it's time to have the kid fess up to the other parents.
  14. succubus

    succubus Comfortably Numb

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    This is all too surreal for me. As far as 'statutory rape' is concerned, they have been dating since before he turned 17 - that's the least of my worries. I'm too young to be a grandma and he's too young to be a dad. He has football scholarship potential and his entire life ahead of him. Right now he's out of state for spring break so when he gets home we're going to sit down and discuss this. Thanks for your advice everyone. I knew I could count on you!
  15. nidex

    nidex Hood Rich

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    I'm pretty sure it doesn't matter how long they've been dating, all that matters is that he had sex with an underage girl. Really try to keep this on the down low as much as possible.
  16. braaains

    braaains gubble gubble

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    Hopefully it's a false alarm. Back when I was 17-18 and fooling around with girls, it seemed like we'd freak out over the smallest things.
  17. mistawiskas

    mistawiskas kik n a and takin names

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    I wish nothing but good things for you and your son. Irregardless of the outcome, life has changed in a big way. If his GF is as hot as his mom, I can't blame the boy one bit. :unibrow:
  18. bigwill51534

    bigwill51534 Saint, Church of Ryanism

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    Wow... That's a tough one....

    I would recommend being honest with the girl's parents. You all need to sit down (you, your son, his girlfriend, and her parents) and discuss what will be done. If she is not pregnant, I hope your son learns his lesson and uses protection. If she is pregnant, then you all need to make a decision as to what direction to go (whether it be keeping the baby, adoption, or abortion). I don't personally agree with abortion, but that is a decision you must all come to.

    No matter what, the matter must be carefully discussed to ensure that the kids don't get offended or overly upset. After all, it is their child. Just please make sure you take their opinions into thought and help them make an educated decision.

    ~Will Courtier~
  19. Lord Kain

    Lord Kain Keeper of the Timeline Staff Member

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  20. Torx

    Torx Indigenous Nudist

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    this sounds like a mess.
    sorry i dont have any advice. i vote for discussing with the other parents before anything is done
  21. czechrboard tassia

    czechrboard tassia Likes gay people.

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    It's rare for me to agree with torx when it comes to relationship advise, but do this.

    The kids made the choice to have sex knowing what the potential consequences were, and now they need to take responsibility for it. IDK if this makes a difference to you, but try putting yourself in the other parents' shoes. Also, that girl is going to want her mama (and the mom will want to comfort her child), regardless of the initial outrage and anger.
  22. nidex

    nidex Hood Rich

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    Don't say anything to her parents until you're 100% sure she's pregnant.
  23. ivanolo

    ivanolo Guest

    No need to ruin the rest of the kid's lives. Everybody needs to have a sit down. Abortion sounds like the best solution.
  24. Bear

    Bear Hoot!

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    Take this to MTV and get on 15 and Pregnant. Cha-ching
  25. GRP

    GRP oh snap

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